There is a lot of sharing in my Facebook feed from sayings, quotes, slogans and inspirational. But there was a checklist that touched my heart. It was an Alzheimer Communication checklist. I tried to figure out the logo that’s at the bottom right hand corner, something about Alzheimers Care __ Center? I was not successful.

But this could also be an approach to mentally ill people. People who are depressed, bipolar, children with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or even post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Speak with empathy.


1. Never argue, instead agree
2. Never reason, instead divert
3. Never shame, instead distract
4. Never lecture, instead reassure
5. Never say “remember”, instead reminisce
6. Never say “I told you”, instead repeat/ regroup
7. Never say “You can’t”, instead do what they can
8. Never command/ demand, instead ask/ model
9. Never condescend, instead encourage
10. Never force, instead reinforce.

Parthenon At Night

Travel. This is the marvelous Parthenon sitting on top of the great rock of the Acropolis in Athens, Greece. Taken at our hotel as the sun set on our first day in Greece.

It was breathtaking to see a building structure that was constructed in 400 BC.

True celebration of life.

Celebrating birthdays is a tradition. The birthday cake is the symbol. The candles are the story.

I attended my sister-in-laws 63rd birthday. The young ones shout “We need 63 candles!” I say, “No, we don’t want a bonfire, just 6 red striped candles, each candle representing a decade of her life and 3 green striped candles for the 3 years.” What’s important is a true celebration of life (among the living) because she made it while others didn’t.

Oversized Quilted Feet Blankets

With retirement, I revisited my craft in sewing. I am good at it … its not just the process but the underlying textile arts, including embroidery, quilting, appliqué and patchwork.

From imitation to innovation is how I started my oversized quilted feet blanket. I found this need to keep my frozen feet warm and needed full body coverage unlike a blanket throw. I found the perfect textile to control the temperature setting – quilted 100% cotton for comfort. I only sell these feet blankets online.

Notice the pocket – that’s where you put you’re feet. The entire blanket covers you’re whole body. No pulling, tugging and adjusting.

Do not pay taxes!

In this situation I needed to use an Automated Teller Machine (ATM)that performs basic banking functions (as handling check deposits or issuing cash withdrawals. I drive-through and I see a car in front of me at the window. I am now behind this car and wait until he drives out. It’s been 2 minutes waiting … 3-1/2 minutes waiting. I’m now getting anxious, my patience level is waning and am in expectation for my turn, but the car does not budge. It’s been 5 minutes. What the heck! “Is this person paying taxes?” “Is this person filing a mortgage loan?” Please be considerate.

My need to have some luxuries

There’s a saying among women, “We need to have our luxuries!” Luxury is an indulgence that provides pleasure and satisfaction but is usually thought of as wrong or unhealthy/forbidden. In this case the former. What luxuries are we talking about … bags, clothes, jewelry, shoes, accessories and a lot more. Of course I love the Gucci’s, Louis Vuitton’s, Christian Dior, Chanel, etc. ‘But’ according to my budget. In the 30 years that I’ve worked I have accumulated a modest collection of these luxuries. It has made me happy. It fills a void in my head space that no man can enter. It’s just me and my luxuries. I call them my girlfriends.

When you do it right there is no sense of guilt that is violating the marital or your own personal economic code. I can’t have it if I can’t afford it. So, I go to the Hello Kitty store at my local mall.